The Rules for Calling Your Man

Let’s face it – the issue of calling men isn’t an easy one to sort through. This part of the dating puzzle is something of a mystery to most of us. First we’re told to play hard to get and not call him and then we’re told to take the relationship by the reins and always call him. The fact of the matter is – phone calls can make or break a relationship. How you handle this issue can be the difference between him falling completely in love with you or breaking up with you. It’s that important!

A fulfilling, rewarding relationship is about creating the perfect balance with your guy. That includes all the time you two are spending together in person as well as the time in between – when you text, email or call one another.

I realized that if I could master the calling rules with my guy, I’d have a big advantage in the relationship. I did. Every woman needs insight into how men see phone calls and how it differs from our view.

If you want to fully understand this part of your relationship – learn all the calling rules. It will help you take control of your dating and relationship experiences.

What Our Calling Patterns Say About Us

How the Men You Date See You

As women, when we’ve got a date lined up with a man we’re interested in, we want to make a good impression. The first date can be “make it or break it” time. If we come across as too aggressive, he might never want a second date. If we instead sit there passively eating dinner and nodding in agreement to everything he says, he’ll likely find us pretty boring.

The same is true with how you handle contact after the date. Your actions speak volumes about how you perceive relationships and what you want in the future from him. Men actually make some pretty strong assumptions about a woman based on how she acts in the days and weeks following a date.

When you call a man first after each and every date, he’ll begin to wonder if you’re too emotionally available. Always initiating contact suggests that you are becoming too dependent on him and that you need reassurance that he’s right where you want him – interested.

A much better approach is to not call. Wait for him to call. He may not call immediately but if he’s interested, he will. He’ll wonder why you aren’t chasing him down like other women have. Remember that men love a chase, so let him be the hunter.

There are circumstances when you should be calling. Find out when those are now.

When Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Call or Email

What to Do When You Feel Ignored

Once you’re in an established relationship, there’s a certain sense of ease that sets in. You and your boyfriend may not venture out to dinner or nightclubs as often as you used to. Instead you opt for quiet evenings at home, where it’s just the two of you. One of the nice things about a relationship at this stage is that you’re both comfortable with each other.

Unfortunately that can also be one of the drawbacks. Many women find that men become less attentive when they know they are your one and only. He may not treat you with flowers or gifts as often, he may be less careful about hiding bad habits and  he phones or emails you a lot less.

As women we love that contact. We love hearing from our boyfriend and knowing that he’s thinking of us. When our phone rings and the caller id says it’s him, our heart skips a little. If that gradually stops, we begin to doubt his feelings. Thoughts of him taking us for granted may also sneak into our heads.

Talking to a man about his calling habits rarely does any good. First off, he’ll wonder why you are being so sensitive and he’ll insist that you don’t need a phone call to know how much he cares about you. He may also feel that you are being petty or too sensitive.

Instead of talking to him about his dwindling phone calls and non-existent emails, you need to take action.

The way you handle calls, texts and emails can actually reignite his drive to call you. Find out what you need to start doing today to ensure he gets back to calling you more.

My Review of ‘Calling Men by Mimi Tanner’

A Great Communication Tool for Any Woman

I gave up trying to read the minds of the men I was dating years ago. I don’t know how many hours I wasted trying to determine why he didn’t call and if I should call him or not. It was incredibly emotionally draining. I’m also embarrassed to admit, that I passed over time with friends, so I could sit and wait for my home phone to ring or for an email from a man to arrive.

I got tired of it. I didn’t understand why men weren’t calling and so I’d call. Often as soon as I did, I’d regret it. I’d either get a cool reception from the man if he did pick up or I’d leave a voicemail and ask him to call, and he never would.

I knew that I wasn’t approaching things the right way and that there had to be a formula to when I should and shouldn’t call. I found the answers in an ebook called Calling Men.

I had read some of the relationship advice being offered by the author Mimi Tanner in the past. What I enjoyed most about her was that she understood exactly what I was feeling. In Calling Men her great advice rang true again. She spells out the communication issue in a clear and concise way.

You’ll find out why men don’t call, what they think when you do call and what goes through their minds when you don’t call. I was really surprised to read that my calling a man could be sending a negative message to him that would kill the relationship in its tracks.

If you’ve ever felt confused or overwhelmed with the issue of calling a man, read this book – it’s truly a guidebook for all women on how to handle this area of communication in her relationship.

Once you finish it you’ll never again have to question whether calling him is a good idea or not.

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